What if? For many people, those two words are where the struggle begins. What if I harmed someone? What if I don't really love my partner? What if I've been lying to myself? What if that memory means something terrible? What if I'm capable of something I would never want to do? The content of the question may vary, but the experience is often remarkably similar. A thought appears, seemingly out of nowhere, and becomes impossible to ignore. It feels urgent, important and deepl

The Body Knows Before the Mind: Using the Body as a Compass Most of us have been taught to think our way through life. When we're uncertain, we analyse. When we're uncomfortable, we search for answers. When we're faced with a decision, we make lists, weigh up options, and look for certainty. Thinking is useful. But not all wisdom arrives through thought. Sometimes the information we need is already present in the body. What if, instead of treating the body as something to ign

Before deciding whether something is intuition or insecurity, pause. Think of a recent moment of doubt. An unanswered message. A shift in someone’s tone. A decision that felt slightly off. As you bring it to mind, notice your breathing is it steady, or slightly braced? Intuition usually feels quiet and proportionate. A subtle sense of “this fits” or “something doesn’t sit right.” It does not demand urgency. It does not spiral. it is sensed and registered. Uncertainty in contr

Have you ever noticed a familiar discomfort showing up again and again? Maybe it’s feeling undervalued at work? a friendship that feels inconsistent, a relationship that feels confusing or exhausting. Maybe it’s the internal voice that always tells you you’re not doing enough? You might find yourself thinking, “Why does this keep happening to me?”It can feel like you’re running in circles, repeating the same story no matter how hard you try to change. What if those recurring

The Wheel of Emotions Tool Most of us use a limited emotional vocabulary. We rely on broad words like, I feel "stressed", "anxious", "down", "sad or "fine", even though our inner world is much more textured. Emotions rarely come as single notes. They are layered, shifting, sometimes contradictory. Understanding those layers matters, because when we misname our experiences, we limit our awareness and understanding of whats happening internally. A tool I use often with clients

No two people experience life the same way, so why should therapy be one-size-fits-all? Over the years, I’ve learned that the most meaningful change happens when we draw from different approaches rather than sticking rigidly to one model. That’s why I work integratively, blending Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) , Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) , Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) , and Narrative Therapy . Each of these approaches brings something valuable to the ta

Inspired by an article by the Greater Good Science Center So many of us are living in a default mode of stress. We’re constantly strategising, scanning for danger, and bracing for what might go wrong. Whether it’s anxiety about work, relationships, money, or just the future in general, our minds are often locked into survival mode, churning through to-do lists and worst-case scenarios on autopilot. Sound familiar? It’s no wonder we’re exhausted. We’re not just reacting to lif

I've had a few clients ask me about whether there is any validity to the concept of manifestation. The idea seems to have gained a lot of popularity in recent years. Perhaps propelled by social media. This article considers whether there is any advantage to the practice and how it might overlap with Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. Manifestation refers to the process of consciously directing thoughts, emotions and intentions toward a desired outcome, with the belief that this

The way we describe pain and think about it can profoundly affect our experience of it. Pain is not just a physical sensation but also an...

Chronic pain can be a challenging experience, often made worse by a mental habit called catastrophising. This is when someone imagines...

I shared some thoughts on friendship inbalances with Stylist Magazine: www.stylist.co.uk/relationships/family-friends/effort-imbalance-m...

I shared a few of my thoughts on coming out with Metro.co.uk as part of Pride Month this year. https://metro.co.uk/2022/06/09/what-to-do-...